Death has always been a taboo topic and most people tend to avoid talking about it. Even though it is traditionally a topic where most people are unwilling to discuss, death is inevitable and is part of the life cycle every human has to go through. Therefore, many people will panic and be very lost when the sudden death of a loved one happens. When the demise of a loved one happens, many emotions will hinder the thought process of the affected family. Coping with such emotions is difficult and many will breakdown thus, making irrational decisions.
When death happens, do not panic. Always remember to certify death. This can be done by consulting the nearest certified doctor to confirm the cause of death and also the doctor will know what is the next step to take. In most cases, the doctor will hand the body over to a mortician, where the body will be further assessed for the death certificate to be produced. After all the clinical assessment, the next step to take is to contact a funeral home.
What is a Funeral Home and How to Choose the Right One?
Funeral home is a service provider which takes care of the funeral ceremony and post-death rites and rituals to be done according to the religion of the deceased. Usually, the funeral director will be present at the mortician room to wait for the collection of the body with their funeral hearse. The funeral hearse will then transport the body which is placed in a coffin. The coffin will be used for eventual land burial or cremation.
Choose a reputable funeral home that has good track records and reviews. An excellent funeral home is always efficient and is professional in planning and arranging funeral services even in chaotic situations and they must be able to perform at the best and control the situation. Not only a good funeral home can smoothly conduct and arrange a funeral service, but they must also be able to show compassion and express sympathy towards the affected families to calm them down. Professional funeral homes will always prioritize compassion before profits they make in arranging the funeral.
What to Expect in a Funeral Service?
Depending on the religion of the deceased, the main purpose of the funeral service is to allow friends and family member of the deceased to pay their last respect and give their last eulogies to describe the wonderful memories spent with the deceased. Sometimes, a religious leader such as pastor, monk or priests is hired to conduct prayers and rituals for the deceased for a smooth passage to after-life.
A funeral ceremony often held before the procession, where there will be a proper set up with tables and chairs for visitors to stay and express their condolences to the deceased’s loved ones. An altar will be placed in front of the set-up, usually near to the coffin of the deceased. As the altar is sacred, always pay respect and bow to the altar to show sympathy, before anything else.
Attending a Funeral: Things to Take Note
Everyone will have to attend at least one funeral event in their whole life. It can be the funeral of a close friend, relative or family member. When attending a funeral service, many people are not aware of the funeral etiquette that they should adhere to, in order not to look awkward or rowdy in front of the affected family. First thing you should always take note of when attending a funeral is to greet and express sympathy with the grieving mourners; deceased’s family members.
A simple gesture such as hugging or warm embrace is key to expressing your condolences to them. You can even show up with appropriate gifts such as funeral wreath in the form of floral stand or even condolence money to help ease the family’s funeral expenses which often can pile up to a huge amount because of the arrangement and expensive coffin with multiple transportation charges. Funeral flowers come in many different forms, it can be circular wreaths or floral stand. Choosing the right type of flowers for the ceremony is important as each flower represents a different meaning. Common flowers such as Roses, Lilies and Orchids are often used as condolences flower for funeral gifts. Flowers can be delivered on the same day, which makes it a favourite item to console the grieving families.
Besides inheritance, what is left when a person leaves the world? The short answer is memories. Life is more than just existence itself. When life begins, a new story is created. Every person has their own story they will leave behind as memories when they leave the earth. After the funeral service, we should also commemorate the decease’s life journey. There are several ways to do it. For instance, some would prefer to be cremated so that the ashes and bone remains can be used to recreate into small jewellery like pendants and keepsake for their loved ones to wear to feel their presence. Memorial Plaques are also used as post-funeral items for families and friends to commemorate the deceased’s existence. Other keepsakes such as ceramic photos of the deceased, necklaces and bracelets embedded with a picture of the deceased are used to remember the wonderful moments spent with the deceased.
Elements of traditional funeral practices are often seen in a modern funeral arrangement as a form of respect for the demised. As much as funeral homes want to inculcate technology and systems into the traditional business, there are many cultural practices to follow. Although the biggest question is always lies in whether there is life after death, we should always keep in mind that every step we take, equals to the story we leave behind in this world as memories to our loved ones.