People often debate what it means to have positive self-esteem. Some people think that confidence is all about how you look, how much you earn, or how many friends that you have. However, the truth is that self-esteem comes from within. If you can learn how to love yourself – whoever you are – then you’ll begin to take that positive attitude with you into everything that you do. You don’t have to believe that you’re the perfect man to be confident, but you do need to accept yourself – warts and all. Here are some of our best tips for improving your self-confidence.
Make a List
First things first, start with a couple of lists. One list can be of the things that you don’t like about yourself – try not to spend too much time on this one. The other list needs to detail all the things that you do like about yourself. This is your chance to be really generous. Address everything from your kind and generous heart, to your excellent gaming skills. If you’re having a hard time listing the things that you like about yourself on your own, it might be a good idea to reach out to friends and family for their advice. If nothing else, their suggestions could give you an excellent emotional boost.
Plan for Change
Remember that list of things that you don’t like about yourself? Go back to it and start questioning everything. If you’ve written down that you’re a failure, ask yourself why you feel that way, and if there’s something you can do to change your perception. For instance, if you’re unhappy with your relationships because you’re having problems with things like erectile dysfunction – a common problem for men over a certain age, it’s easy to fix this issue. Speaking to a doctor or reviewing online about the kind of tablets that you can take, and lifestyle changes you can make could immediately improve your situation. If you’re unhappy because you don’t think you’re doing well at work, maybe you can try taking some extra courses to expand your skills and make yourself more desirable as an employee.
Stop Aiming for Perfection
Finally, remember that although some of the things that you don’t like about yourself will be fixable, others won’t be. There will be issues that bring down your self-esteem and overall confidence that you just can’t change. For instance, maybe you’re a terrible dancer, and you don’t have the time to learn how to improve. That’s fine. Accept that flaw that you have and remind yourself that you have other benefits that even things out. For instance, you might not own the dance floor, but you could be great when playing football with the guys. Get to know yourself and remember that for everything you don’t like about who you are, there’s something that your loved ones really appreciate about you. If you need a reminder of how much you’re loved, schedule some time with your friends and family. It’s much easier to be positive when you’re surrounded by caring vibes.